At the heart of the family . . .


Caveat:  I am not a teacher or a preacher.  Just an observer.  When I seem to philosophize, please mentally add the words “In my opinion”  at the beginning of each sentence.  Thank you.


How interesting it is that we go through our lifetime with a specific group of people, some from the same gene pool and later mates and  in-laws that we added. Together, we all teach each other to walk and talk, to eat, to share, to listen, to follow rules, to show respect, to be inventive, to work with others, to care, to compete, to get things done.

Traditionally, around the table, we have shared our experiences of the day . . but now we can be in touch at any time with our handy devices.  We stick up for each other. We are honest with each other. A family member will bluntly say “Whew, you need some deodorant. . . Hey, you’re acting stupid . . or . . You’ve got a piece of lettuce on your tooth.”

When important things happen to us in our lives we want those people near to share it with us. When things go wrong, we go to a family member. When we do well we can only brag to a family member. We laugh with them. . often . . and in rare and certain times, we cry with them.

Now, here is an interesting insight I had when I took one random phrase and wrote how each of my family members would express it. We are all different you know, each one as individual as can be, and that is one way we bring balance into our lives, as we lean on and learn from and with each other. Read here my examples and then take some idea or concept and, without too much thought, just write down how your family members would state it. You will be surprised how well you know them.

For what it’s worth, I shared this list with each of my family members and they all laughed and said I had it exactly right.

Father:   If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing fast 

Mother: If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing right 

Son #2:   If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing with a schedule and a plan 

Son #1:   If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing tomorrow 

Daughter:   If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing right now







3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Donna Thomas
    Apr 18, 2014 @ 11:53:00

    Just like fingers on a hand – related, yet all different. Beautiful family photos; beautiful family❤️


  2. Betty
    Apr 18, 2014 @ 19:41:19

    Let’s do it right now!


  3. Sara Markland
    Apr 28, 2014 @ 06:12:09

    Exactly right!! I love both of those pictures. Good times!!! I just have to mention for your friends who read this that the picture on the bottom elicits wonderful memories. It was homecoming at UNL. Mom and Dad had NO idea that their three children, from three far corners of this country, had flown in to surprise them. We surprised them in Lincoln at the pre-game party. That was a spectacularly happy day.


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